Xentor
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Forceful Pacifist
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Post by Xentor on Jun 10, 2014 7:54:02 GMT -11
 From my experience, when we are confronted with criticism towards our behaviour, our first response seems to turn the tables and break down the authority of the critic. "Who are you to criticise me? Look at your own behaviour, first!" Well, let me be the first to confess that I too make mistakes, which lead to negative reactions. Apart from me making mistakes, I also learn. I learn what my society considers mistakes and bad behaviour from those negative reactions. As a result, I can predict the reactions of both my own actions as well as those by someone else. That is my authority. Now, some of us also learn from the example of other people. The closer we are to a situation, the more intense the experience, and thus the better the learning experience. That too, creates authority. So what's your excuse? |
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oonagh
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*other worldy*
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Post by oonagh on Jun 18, 2014 4:12:08 GMT -11
no excuse
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Post by peonysunday on Jun 18, 2014 4:22:45 GMT -11
I am going to deny all acts of bad behaviour!
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oonagh
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*other worldy*
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Post by oonagh on Jun 20, 2014 7:19:32 GMT -11
I am going to deny all acts of bad behaviour! ha! *fantastic* |
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djiril
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Post by djiril on Jul 9, 2014 7:32:07 GMT -11
This sounds like every argument I ever had with either of my parents.
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Post by peonysunday on Jul 9, 2014 9:32:33 GMT -11
Yes,use the SODDI defense. (Some Other Dude Did It!)
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Graphite
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The Big Bad
Trimming fat
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Post by Graphite on Jul 9, 2014 14:00:30 GMT -11
My intense need to always behave well, or in a manner that those closest to me deem "well behaved" is incredibly big. The first person I accuse or berate when that behaviour is criticized by loved ones is usually myself.
That being said, if other people outside of that very small group tells me my behaviour is bad one of two things happen; either I apologize or I shrug it off. To be quite honest, sometimes people accuse one of bad behaviour simply because they do not have the whole story about a situation or because they know themselves their behaviour in relation to a situation is the wrong one.
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